Sahih Bukhari Hadith No 5189 - Sahih Bukhari 5189

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The Book Of (The Wedlock) of Sahih Bukhari is from Chapter No. 68, The Book Of (The Wedlock), written by Imam Bukhari. This chapter contains 188 hadiths, specifically hadiths about The Book Of (The Wedlock). The Sahih Bukhari collection encompasses a total of ninety-nine chapters and 7558 hadiths.

Chapter Name

The Book Of (The Wedlock)

Book Name

Sahih Bukhari by Muhammad Al-Bukhari

Book Writer

Abū Abd Allāh M. ibn Ismāʿīl ibn Ibrāhīm al-Juʿfī al-Bukhārī

Chapter No

Numbers Of Hadith In Chapter

188

Translation

Arabic, english and urdu

Narrated `Aisha: Eleven women sat (at a place) and promised and contracted that they would not conceal anything of the news of their husbands. The first one said, My husband is like the meat of a slim weak camel which is kept on the top of a mountain which is neither easy to climb, nor is the meat fat, so that one might put up with the trouble of fetching it. The second one said, I shall not relate my husband's news, for I fear that I may not be able to finish his story, for if I describe him, I will mention all his defects and bad traits. The third one said, My husband, the too-tall ! if I describe him (and he hears of that) he will divorce me, and if I keep quiet, he will keep me hanging (neither divorcing me nor treating me as a wife). The fourth one said, My husband is (moderate in temper) like the night of Tihama: neither hot nor cold; I am neither afraid of him, nor am I discontented with him. The fifth one said, My husband, when entering (the house) is a leopard (sleeps a lot), and when going out, is a lion (boasts a lot). He does not ask about whatever is in the house. The sixth one said, If my husband eats, he eats too much (leaving the dishes empty), and if he drinks he leaves nothing; if he sleeps he sleeps he rolls himself (alone in our blankets); and he does not insert his palm to inquire about my feelings. The seventh one said, My husband is a wrong-doer or weak and foolish. All the defects are present in him. He may injure your head or your body or may do both. The eighth one said, My husband is soft to touch like a rabbit and smells like a Zarnab (a kind of good smelling grass). The ninth one said, My husband is a tall generous man wearing a long strap for carrying his sword. His ashes are abundant (i.e. generous to his guests) and his house is near to the people (who would easily consult him). The tenth one said, My husband is Malik (possessor), and what is Malik? Malik is greater than whatever I say about him. (He is beyond and above all praises which can come to my mind). Most of his camels are kept at home (ready to be slaughtered for the guests) and only a few are taken to the pastures. When the camels hear the sound of the lute (or the tambourine) they realize that they are going to be slaughtered for the guests. The eleventh one said, My husband is Abu Zar` and what is Abu Zar` (i.e., what should I say about him)? He has given me many ornaments and my ears are heavily loaded with them and my arms have become fat (i.e., I have become fat). And he has pleased me, and I have become so happy that I feel proud of myself. He found me with my family who were mere owners of sheep and living in poverty, and brought me to a respected family having horses and camels and threshing and purifying grain. Whatever I say, he does not rebuke or insult me. When I sleep, I sleep till late in the morning, and when I drink water (or milk), I drink my fill. The mother of Abu Zar and what may one say in praise of the mother of Abu Zar? Her saddle bags were always full of provision and her house was spacious. As for the son of Abu Zar, what may one say of the son of Abu Zar? His bed is as narrow as an unsheathed sword and an arm of a kid (of four months) satisfies his hunger. As for the daughter of Abu Zar, she is obedient to her father and to her mother. She has a fat well-built body and that arouses the jealousy of her husband's other wife. As for the (maid) slave girl of Abu Zar, what may one say of the (maid) slavegirl of Abu Zar? She does not uncover our secrets but keeps them, and does not waste our provisions and does not leave the rubbish scattered everywhere in our house. The eleventh lady added, One day it so happened that Abu Zar went out at the time when the milk was being milked from the animals, and he saw a woman who had two sons like two leopards playing with her two breasts. (On seeing her) he divorced me and married her. Thereafter I married a noble man who used to ride a fast tireless horse and keep a spear in his hand. He gave me many things, and also a pair of every kind of livestock and said, Eat (of this), O Um Zar, and give provision to your relatives. She added, Yet, all those things which my second husband gave me could not fill the smallest utensil of Abu Zar's. `Aisha then said: Allah's Apostle said to me, I am to you as Abu Zar was to his wife Um Zar.

حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ ، وَعَلِيُّ بْنُ حُجْرٍ ، قَالَا : أَخْبَرَنَا عِيسَى بْنُ يُونُسَ ، حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ ، عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ ، عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ، قَالَتْ : جَلَسَ إِحْدَى عَشْرَةَ امْرَأَةً فَتَعَاهَدْنَ وَتَعَاقَدْنَ أَنْ لَا يَكْتُمْنَ مِنْ أَخْبَارِ أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ شَيْئًا ، قَالَتِ الْأُولَى : زَوْجِي لَحْمُ جَمَلٍ غَثٍّ عَلَى رَأْسِ جَبَلٍ لَا سَهْلٍ فَيُرْتَقَى وَلَا سَمِينٍ فَيُنْتَقَلُ ، قَالَتِ الثَّانِيَةُ : زَوْجِي لَا أَبُثُّ خَبَرَهُ إِنِّي أَخَافُ أَنْ لَا أَذَرَهُ إِنْ أَذْكُرْهُ أَذْكُرْ عُجَرَهُ وَبُجَرَهُ ، قَالَتِ الثَّالِثَةُ : زَوْجِي الْعَشَنَّقُ إِنْ أَنْطِقْ أُطَلَّقْ وَإِنْ أَسْكُتْ أُعَلَّقْ ، قَالَتِ الرَّابِعَةُ : زَوْجِي كَلَيْلِ تِهَامَةَ لَا حَرٌّ وَلَا قُرٌّ وَلَا مَخَافَةَ وَلَا سَآمَةَ ، قَالَتِ الْخَامِسَةُ : زَوْجِي إِنْ دَخَلَ فَهِدَ وَإِنْ خَرَجَ أَسِدَ وَلَا يَسْأَلُ عَمَّا عَهِدَ ، قَالَتِ السَّادِسَةُ : زَوْجِي إِنْ أَكَلَ لَفَّ وَإِنْ شَرِبَ اشْتَفَّ وَإِنِ اضْطَجَعَ الْتَفَّ وَلَا يُولِجُ الْكَفَّ لِيَعْلَمَ الْبَثَّ ، قَالَتِ السَّابِعَةُ : زَوْجِي غَيَايَاءُ أَوْ عَيَايَاءُ طَبَاقَاءُ كُلُّ دَاءٍ لَهُ دَاءٌ شَجَّكِ أَوْ فَلَّكِ أَوْ جَمَعَ كُلًّا لَكِ ، قَالَتِ الثَّامِنَةُ : زَوْجِي الْمَسُّ مَسُّ أَرْنَبٍ وَالرِّيحُ رِيحُ زَرْنَبٍ ، قَالَتِ التَّاسِعَةُ : زَوْجِي رَفِيعُ الْعِمَادِ طَوِيلُ النِّجَادِ عَظِيمُ الرَّمَادِ قَرِيبُ الْبَيْتِ مِنَ النَّادِ ، قَالَتِ الْعَاشِرَةُ : زَوْجِي مَالِكٌ وَمَا مَالِكٌ مَالِكٌ خَيْرٌ مِنْ ذَلِكِ لَهُ إِبِلٌ كَثِيرَاتُ الْمَبَارِكِ قَلِيلَاتُ الْمَسَارِحِ وَإِذَا سَمِعْنَ صَوْتَ الْمِزْهَرِ أَيْقَنَّ أَنَّهُنَّ هَوَالِكُ ، قَالَتِ الْحَادِيَةَ عَشْرَةَ : زَوْجِي أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَمَا أَبُو زَرْعٍ أَنَاسَ مِنْ حُلِيٍّ أُذُنَيَّ وَمَلَأَ مِنْ شَحْمٍ عَضُدَيَّ وَبَجَّحَنِي فَبَجِحَتْ إِلَيَّ نَفْسِي وَجَدَنِي فِي أَهْلِ غُنَيْمَةٍ بِشِقٍّ ، فَجَعَلَنِي فِي أَهْلِ صَهِيلٍ وَأَطِيطٍ وَدَائِسٍ وَمُنَقٍّ فَعِنْدَهُ أَقُولُ فَلَا أُقَبَّحُ وَأَرْقُدُ فَأَتَصَبَّحُ وَأَشْرَبُ فَأَتَقَنَّحُ أُمُّ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا أُمُّ أَبِي زَرْعٍ عُكُومُهَا رَدَاحٌ وَبَيْتُهَا فَسَاحٌ ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا ابْنُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ مَضْجَعُهُ كَمَسَلِّ شَطْبَةٍ وَيُشْبِعُهُ ذِرَاعُ الْجَفْرَةِ بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا بِنْتُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ طَوْعُ أَبِيهَا وَطَوْعُ أُمِّهَا وَمِلْءُ كِسَائِهَا وَغَيْظُ جَارَتِهَا جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ فَمَا جَارِيَةُ أَبِي زَرْعٍ لَا تَبُثُّ حَدِيثَنَا تَبْثِيثًا وَلَا تُنَقِّثُ مِيرَتَنَا تَنْقِيثًا وَلَا تَمْلَأُ بَيْتَنَا تَعْشِيشًا ، قَالَتْ : خَرَجَ أَبُو زَرْعٍ وَالْأَوْطَابُ تُمْخَضُ فَلَقِيَ امْرَأَةً مَعَهَا وَلَدَانِ لَهَا كَالْفَهْدَيْنِ يَلْعَبَانِ مِنْ تَحْتِ خَصْرِهَا بِرُمَّانَتَيْنِ فَطَلَّقَنِي وَنَكَحَهَا ، فَنَكَحْتُ بَعْدَهُ رَجُلًا سَرِيًّا رَكِبَ شَرِيًّا وَأَخَذَ خَطِّيًّا وَأَرَاحَ عَلَيَّ نَعَمًا ثَرِيًّا وَأَعْطَانِي مِنْ كُلِّ رَائِحَةٍ زَوْجًا ، وَقَالَ : كُلِي أُمَّ زَرْعٍ وَمِيرِي أَهْلَكِ ، قَالَتْ : فَلَوْ جَمَعْتُ كُلَّ شَيْءٍ أَعْطَانِيهِ مَا بَلَغَ أَصْغَرَ آنِيَةِ أَبِي زَرْعٍ ، قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ : قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ : كُنْتُ لَكِ كَأَبِي زَرْعٍ لِأُمِّ زَرْعٍ ، قَالَ أَبُو عَبْد اللَّهِ ، قَالَ سَعِيدُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ : عَنْ هِشَامٍ ، وَلَا تُعَشِّشُ بَيْتَنَا تَعْشِيشًا ، قَالَ أَبُو عَبْد اللَّهِ : وَقَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ : فَأَتَقَمَّحُ بِالْمِيمِ وَهَذَا أَصَحُّ .

ہم سے سلیمان بن عبدالرحمٰن اور علی بن حجر نے بیان کیا، ان دونوں نے کہا کہ ہم کو عیسیٰ بن یونس نے خبر دی، اس نے کہا کہ ہم سے ہشام بن عروہ نے بیان کیا، انہوں نے اپنے بھائی عبداللہ بن عروہ سے، انہوں نے اپنے والد عروہ بن زبیر سے، انہوں نے عائشہ رضی اللہ عنہا سے انہوں نے کہا کہ گیارہ عورتوں کا ایک اجتماع ہوا جس میں انہوں نے آپس میں یہ طے کیا کہ مجلس میں وہ اپنے اپنے خاوند کا صحیح صحیح حال بیان کریں کوئی بات نہ چھپاویں۔ چنانچہ پہلی عورت ( نام نامعلوم ) بولی میرے خاوند کی مثال ایسی ہے جیسے دبلے اونٹ کا گوشت جو پہاڑ کی چوٹی پر رکھا ہوا ہو نہ تو وہاں تک جانے کا راستہ صاف ہے کہ آسانی سے چڑھ کر اس کو کوئی لے آوے اور نہ وہ گوشت ہی ایسا موٹا تازہ ہے جسے لانے کے لیے اس پہاڑ پر چڑھنے کی تکلیف گوارا کرے۔ دوسری عورت ( عمرہ بنت عمرو تمیمی نامی ) کہنے لگی میں اپنے خاوند کا حال بیان کروں تو کہاں تک بیان کروں ( اس میں اتنے عیب ہیں ) میں ڈرتی ہوں کہ سب بیان نہ کر سکوں گی اس پر بھی اگر بیان کروں تو اس کے کھلے اور چھپے سارے عیب بیان کر سکتی ہوں۔ تیسری عورت ( حیی بنت کعب یمانی ) کہنے لگی، میرا خاوند کیا ہے ایک تاڑ کا تاڑ ( لمبا تڑنگا ) ہے اگر اس کے عیب بیان کروں تو طلاق تیار ہے اگر خاموش رہوں تو ادھر لٹکی رہوں۔ چوتھی عورت ( مہدو بنت ابی ہرومہ ) کہنے لگی کہ میرا خاوند ملک تہامہ کی رات کی طرح معتدل نہ زیادہ گرم نہ بہت ٹھنڈا نہ اس سے مجھ کو خوف ہے نہ اکتاہٹ ہے۔ پانچوں عورت ( کبشہ نامی ) کہنے لگی کہ میرا خاوند ایسا ہے کہ گھر میں آتا ہے تو وہ ایک چیتا ہے اور جب باہر نکلتا ہے تو شیر ( بہادر ) کی طرح ہے۔ جو چیز گھر میں چھوڑ کر جاتا ہے اس کے بارے میں پوچھتا ہی نہیں ( کہ وہ کہاں گئی؟ ) اتنا بےپرواہ ہے جو آج کمایا اسے کل کے لیے اٹھا کر رکھتا ہی نہیں اتنا سخی ہے۔ چھٹی عورت ( ہند نامی ) کہنے لگی کہ میرا خاوند جب کھانے پر آتا ہے تو سب کچھ چٹ کر جاتا ہے اور جب پینے پر آتا ہے تو ایک بوند بھی باقی نہیں چھوڑتا اور جب لیٹتا ہے تو تنہا ہی اپنے اوپر کپڑا لپیٹ لیتا ہے اور الگ پڑ کر سو جاتا ہے میرے کپڑے میں کبھی ہاتھ بھی نہیں ڈالتا کہ کبھی میرا دکھ درد کچھ تو معلوم کرے۔ ساتویں عورت ( حیی بنت علقمہ ) میرا خاوند تو جاہل یا مست ہے۔ صحبت کے وقت اپنا سینہ میرے سینے سے اوندھا پڑ جاتا ہے۔ دنیا میں جتنے عیب لوگوں میں ایک ایک کر کے جمع ہیں وہ سب اس کی ذات میں جمع ہیں ( کم بخت سے بات کروں تو ) سر پھوڑ ڈالے یا ہاتھ توڑ ڈالے یا دونوں کام کر ڈالے۔ آٹھویں عورت ( یاسر بنت اوس ) کہنے لگی میرا خاوند چھونے میں خرگوش کی طرح نرم ہے اور خوشبو میں سونگھو تو زعفران جیسا خوشبودار ہے۔ نویں عورت ( نام نامعلوم ) کہنے لگی کہ میرے خاوند کا گھر بہت اونچا اور بلند ہے وہ قدآور بہادر ہے، اس کے یہاں کھانا اس قدر پکتا ہے کہ راکھ کے ڈھیر کے ڈھیر جمع ہیں۔ ( غریبوں کو خوب کھلاتا ہے ) لوگ جہاں صلاح و مشورہ کے لیے بیٹھتے ہیں ( یعنی پنچائت گھر ) وہاں سے اس کا گھر بہت نزدیک ہے۔ دسویں عورت ( کبشہ بنت رافع ) کہنے لگی میرے خاوند کا کیا پوچھنا جائیداد والا ہے، جائیداد بھی کیسی بڑی جائیداد ویسی کسی کے پاس نہیں ہو سکتی بہت سارے اونٹ جو جابجا اس کے گھر کے پاس جٹے رہتے ہیں اور جنگل میں چرنے کم جاتے ہیں۔ جہاں ان اونٹوں نے باجے کی آواز سنی بس ان کو اپنے ذبح ہونے کا یقین ہو گیا۔ گیارھویں عورت ( ام زرع بنت اکیمل بنت ساعدہ ) کہنے لگی میرا خاوند ابوزرع ہے اس کا کیا کہنا اس نے میرے کانوں کو زیوروں سے بوجھل کر دیا ہے اور میرے دونوں بازو چربی سے پھلا دئیے ہیں مجھے خوب کھلا کر موٹا کر دیا ہے کہ میں بھی اپنے تئیں خوب موٹی سمجھنے لگی ہوں۔ شادی سے پہلے میں تھوڑی سے بھیڑ بکریوں میں تنگی سے گزر بسر کرتی تھی۔ ابوزرعہ نے مجھ کو گھوڑوں، اونٹوں، کھیت کھلیان سب کا مالک بنا دیا ہے اتنی بہت جائیداد ملنے پر بھی اس کا مزاج اتنا عمدہ ہے کہ بات کہوں تو برا نہیں مانتا مجھ کو کبھی برا نہیں کہتا۔ سوئی پڑی رہوں تو صبح تک مجھے کوئی نہیں جگاتا۔ پانی پیوں تو خوب سیراب ہو کر پی لوں رہی ابوزرعہ کی ماں ( میری ساس ) تو میں اس کی کیا خوبیاں بیان کروں۔ اس کا توشہ کھانا مال و اسباب سے بھرا ہوا، اس کا گھر بہت ہی کشادہ۔ ابوزرعہ کا بیٹا وہ بھی کیسا اچھا خوبصورت ( نازک بدن دبلا پتلا ) ہری چھالی یا ننگی تلوار کے برابر اس کے سونے کی جگہ ایسا کم خوراک کہ بکری کے چار ماہ کے بچے کا دست کا گوشت اس کا پیٹ بھر دے۔ ابوزرعہ کی بیٹی وہ بھی سبحان اللہ کیا کہنا اپنے باپ کی پیاری، اپنی ماں کی پیاری ( تابع فرمان اطاعت گزار ) کپڑا بھر پور پہننے والی ( موٹی تازی ) سوکن کی جلن۔ ابوزرعہ کی لونڈی اس کی بھی کیا پوچھتے ہو کبھی کوئی بات ہماری مشہور نہیں کرتی ( گھر کا بھید ہمیشہ پوشیدہ رکھتی ہے ) کھانے تک نہیں چراتی گھر میں کوڑا کچڑا نہیں چھوڑتی مگر ایک دن ایسا ہوا کہ لوگ مکھن نکالنے کو دودھ متھ رہے تھے۔ ( صبح ہی صبح ) ابوزرعہ باہر گیا اچانک اس نے ایک عورت دیکھی جس کے دو بچے چیتوں کی طرح اس کی کمر کے تلے دو اناروں سے کھیل رہے تھے ( مراد اس کی دونوں چھاتیاں ہیں جو انار کی طرح تھیں ) ۔ ابوزرعہ نے مجھ کو طلاق دے کر اس عورت سے نکاح کر لیا۔ اس کے بعد میں نے ایک اور شریف سردار سے نکاح کر لیا جو گھوڑے کا اچھا سوار، عمدہ نیزہ باز ہے، اس نے بھی مجھ کو بہت سے جانور دے دئیے ہیں اور ہر قسم کے اسباب میں سے ایک ایک جوڑا دیا ہوا ہے اور مجھ سے کہا کرتا ہے کہ ام زرع! خوب کھا پی، اپنے عزیز و اقرباء کو بھی خوب کھلا پلا تیرے لیے عام اجازت ہے مگر یہ سب کچھ بھی جو میں نے تجھ کو دیا ہوا ہے اگر اکٹھا کروں تو تیرے پہلے خاوند ابوزرعہ نے جو تجھ کو دیا تھا، اس میں کا ایک چھوٹا برتن بھی نہ بھرے۔

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Narrated 'Urwa: Aisha said, While the Ethiopians were playing with their small spears, Allah's Apostle screened me behind him and I watched (that display) and kept on watching till I left on my own. So you may estimate of what age a little girl may listen to amusement.

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Narrated Ibn `Abbas: I had been eager to ask `Umar bin Al-Khattab about the two ladies from among the wives of the Prophet regarding whom Allah said 'If you two (wives of the Prophet namely Aisha and Hafsa) turn in repentance to Allah, your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet likes). (66.4) till `Umar performed the Hajj and I too, performed the Hajj along with him. (On the way) `Umar went aside to answer the call of nature, and I also went aside along with him carrying a tumbler full of water, and when `Umar had finished answering the call of nature, I poured water over his hands and he performed the ablution. Then I said to him, O chief of the Believers! Who were the two ladies from among the wives of the Prophet regarding whom Allah said: 'If you two (wives of the Prophet) turn in repentance to Allah your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet likes)? (66.4) He said, I am astonished at your question, O Ibn `Abbas. They were `Aisha and Hafsa. Then `Umar went on narrating the Hadith and said, I and an Ansari neighbor of mine from Bani Umaiyya bin Zaid who used to live in `Awali-al-Medina, used to visit the Prophet in turn. He used to go one day and I another day. When I went, I would bring him the news of what had happened that day regarding the Divine Inspiration and other things, and when he went, he used to do the same for me. We, the people of Quraish used to have the upper hand over our wives, but when we came to the Ansar, we found that their women had the upper hand over their men, so our women also started learning the ways of the Ansari women. I shouted at my wife and she retorted against me and I disliked that she should answer me back. She said to me, 'Why are you so surprised at my answering you back? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet answer him back and some of them may leave (does not speak to) him throughout the day till the night.' The (talk) scared me and I said to her, 'Whoever has done so will be ruined!' Then I proceeded after dressing myself, and entered upon Hafsa and said to her, 'Does anyone of you keep the Prophet angry till night?' She said, 'Yes.' I said, 'You are a ruined losing person! Don't you fear that Allah may get angry for the anger of Allah's Apostle and thus you will be ruined? So do not ask more from the Prophet and do not answer him back and do not give up talking to him. Ask me whatever you need and do not be tempted to imitate your neighbor (i.e., `Aisha) in her manners for she is more charming than you and more beloved to the Prophet . `Umar added, At that time a talk was circulating among us that (the tribe of) Ghassan were preparing their horses to invade us. My Ansari companion, on the day of his turn, went (to the town) and returned to us at night and knocked at my door violently and asked if I was there. I became horrified and came out to him. He said, 'Today a great thing has happened.' I asked, 'What is it? Have (the people of) Ghassan come?' He said, 'No, but (What has happened) is greater and more horrifying than that: Allah's Apostle; has divorced his wives. `Umar added, The Prophet kept away from his wives and I said Hafsa is a ruined loser.' I had already thought that most probably this (divorce) would happen in the near future. So I dressed myself and offered the morning prayer with the Prophet and then the Prophet; entered an upper room and stayed there in seclusion. I entered upon Hafsa and saw her weeping. I asked, 'What makes you weep? Did I not warn you about that? Did the Prophet divorce you all?' She said, 'I do not know. There he is retired alone in the upper room.' I came out and sat near the pulpit and saw a group of people sitting around it and some of them were weeping. I sat with them for a while but could not endure the situation, so I went to the upper room where the Prophet; was and said to a black slave of his, 'Will you get the permission (of the Prophet ) for `Umar (to enter)?' The slave went in, talked to the Prophet about it and then returned saying, 'I have spoken to the Prophet and mentioned you but he kept quiet.' Then I returned and sat with the group of people sitting near the pulpit. but I could not bear the situation and once again I said to the slave, 'Will you get the permission for `Umar?' He went in and returned saying, 'I mentioned you to him but he kept quiet.' So I returned again and sat with the group of people sitting near the pulpit, but I could not bear the situation, and so I went to the slave and said, 'Will you get the permission for `Umar?' He went in and returned to me saying, 'I mentioned you to him but he kept quiet.' When I was leaving, behold! The slave called me, saying, 'The Prophet has given you permission.' Then I entered upon Allah's Apostle and saw him Lying on a bed made of stalks of date palm leaves and there was no bedding between it and him. The stalks left marks on his side and he was leaning on a leather pillow stuffed with date-palm fires. I greeted him and while still standing I said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Have you divorced your wives?' He looked at me and said, 'No.' I said, 'Allah Akbar!' And then, while still standing, I said chatting, 'Will you heed what I say, O Allah's Apostle? We, the people of Quraish used to have power over our women, but when we arrived at Medina we found that the men (here) were overpowered by their women.' The Prophet smiled and then I said to him, 'Will you heed what I say, O Allah's Apostle? I entered upon Hafsa and said to her, Do not be tempted to imitate your companion (`Aisha), for she is more charming than you and more beloved to the Prophet.' The Prophet smiled for a second time. When I saw him smiling, I sat down. Then I looked around his house, and by Allah, I could not see anything of importance in his house except three hides, so I said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Invoke Allah to make your followers rich, for the Persians and the Romans have been made prosperous and they have been given (the pleasures of the world), although they do not worship Allah.' Thereupon the Prophet sat up as he was reclining. and said, 'Are you of such an opinion, O the son of Al-Khattab? These are the people who have received the rewards for their good deeds in this world.' I said, 'O Allah's Apostle! Ask Allah to forgive me.' Then the Prophet kept away from his wives for twenty-nine days because of the story which Hafsa had disclosed to `Aisha. The Prophet had said, 'I will not enter upon them (my wives) for one month,' because of his anger towards them, when Allah had admonished him. So, when twenty nine days had passed, the Prophet first entered upon `Aisha. `Aisha said to him, 'O Allah's Apostle! You had sworn that you would not enter upon us for one month, but now only twenty-nine days have passed, for I have been counting them one by one.' The Prophet said, 'The (present) month is of twenty nine days.' `Aisha added, 'Then Allah revealed the Verses of the option. (2) And out of all his-wives he asked me first, and I chose him.' Then he gave option to his other wives and they said what `Aisha had said . (1) The Prophet, ' had decided to abstain from eating a certain kind of food because of a certain event, so Allah blamed him for doing so. Some of his wives were the cause of him taking that decision, therefore he deserted them for one month. See Qur'an: (66.4)

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Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, A woman should not fast (optional fasts) except with her husband's permission if he is at home (staying with her).

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Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, If a man Invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses to come to him, then the angels send their curses on her till morning.

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Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, If a woman spends the night deserting her husband's bed (does not sleep with him), then the angels send their curses on her till she comes back (to her husband).

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Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, It is not lawful for a lady to fast (Nawafil) without the permission of her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission; and if she spends of his wealth (on charitable purposes) without being ordered by him, he will get half of the reward.